There’s something about Valentine’s Day that either gets people super giddy and weak in the knees or makes people feel worthless. In middle school I felt special when someone gave me a Valentine (you know, the ones with cheesy sayings and a piece of candy attached), or when that cute boy admitted he had a crush on me. In high school I felt the desperate need to get my crush to be interested so I had someone who’d pay attention to me on Valentine’s Day. In college it evolved into planning a girl’s night with friends to forget the fact that we were single (like being single is a bad thing?!).
I don’t think it’s entirely our fault, this day has been stereotyped and marketed for lovers only and, in my opinion, has made people (not excluding myself here) extremely selfish in one way or another. All we see are the “buy this for her” and “treat yo’ self” campaigns everywhere.
Selfishness is the root of all heartache. Expectation leads to disappointment. Valentine’s Day can be disheartening for people in relationships too, not just for us single people.
If Valentine’s Day is about love, this begs the question, what is real love anyway?
A challenge to myself and to you reading this- to build up others by intentionally loving them, starting this Valentine’s Day. All it requires is a little change in our mindset. Instead of focusing on ourselves, what if we focused on others- a significant other, family, friends, coworkers, strangers.
The 5 Love Languages
Learning someone’s love language may take a little time if you don’t know them that well. But once learned, it’s easy to show you love them!
“This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down His life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters.” 1 John 3:16